Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Confessions of a Working Momma {1}

Before you read this I would just like to leave a disclaimer... I don't know what it is like to be a stay at home mom ("SAHM") and I am in NO way implying that working is harder than staying at home.  Staying at home is work too. Being a mom is tough, and no one has it 'worse' than the other...we all have our own version of "hard" and this is NOT about the comparison game.  It's about where I am right now... That said, you've been warned...read on if you so choose...

Being a working momma can be tough.  If there is one word that makes any of it easier, it's BALANCE.  I have to remind myself every day to keep things in balance.  The burning question is how do you balance the career-driven side when the baby-lovin' side just wants to take over?!  Followed by the other questions in my mind... how do you balance family life with friends and how do you balance rest with getting housework done?

Very carefully, that's how.  I have to let go of the expectation I place on myself.  

One pitfall I (all too often) fall victim to is trying to be Super-Mom!  I want to be perfect.  I want to have a successful day in the office and come home to my perfectly well behaved child, who never has spit-up on him, and prepare a gourmet decent meal for BL in a spotless moderately clean kitchen. 

Reality is that sometimes work is tough and I don't get it all done.  Reality is that sometimes my baby has gas and is really fussy.  Reality is that sometimes frozen waffles will do for dinner (as long as I add some protein for my calorie-hungry husband). 

Sometimes I feel like my house will never be clean again.  Dust bunnies in the corner, mail on the table, dishes in the sink.  They all pile up and they all drive me crazy!  There will never, ever, be enough hours in the day to complete a full day at the office and then a full day in my home. I am exhausted, I am cranky, and I am sad.  I want perfection, and yet, I realize it's just not possible.  

Spending time with my son is way more important than those dishes, and I keep it in perspective.  I have set a goal for myself to do one thing each day.  Monday I may vacuum, Tuesday I may sort the coupons strewn on the table, Wednesday I may clean the bathrooms.  Not everything has to be done in one night.  BALANCE.  

Like I said, being a momma is tough business and not for the faint of heart.  I am so blessed with my growing family and at the end of the day I just want to lay my head on my pillow and give thanks to the One who has given me way more than I will ever deserve.   He alone can sustain me to keep the balance...

In closing {for now} I want to share a little joy with you.  Little man Max loves tummy time {most days} and has awesome neck strength {isn't it amazing what moms get excited about?!}...Enjoy {the baby, not my "mom voice"}.


Make it a great day friends.